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Is what i'm bearing abuse or is just a culture thing i should accept....?

i am girl who is Junior in my high school as of now and my parent beat me at times... i was just wondering...if...um....well is this abuse or is it just a cultural thing... i am an indian (not native american) and in india kids get beat up all the time....but when i spoke to a good friend of mine.....well she says that this isn't normal... she is also asian and has lived with her fair share of domestic household distress.... but please allow me to elaborate... for example my mother beats me way more frequently then my father....and often she beats me because i have answered back.... i guess that seems fine because i think i deserve it when i am being rude...but at times...well all the time really i am mentally forced(and physically i guess at this point) to suppress my opinion and choice. if i were to stand up for myself or rebut any false accusations on my character its immediate result is a solid thrashing and beating... i have been beaten in front of my older brother a lot of the times...he used to be beaten but they stopped when he was about 14 years old i guess because he was a growing up boy....but he is incapable of doing anything frankly so he just feels helpless and tormented.... i have been beaten in front of my grandparents and a relative i have never met... hands belts slipper and sticks are the mediums through which i am punished with....as well as calling me words like....well...the worst a girl can be called....my character is defamed all the time.... if i were to strike a friendship with a guy then apparently that means im sleeping with him....if i am not to follow any orders directly regardless of there practicality...i am threatened...verbally...of course... both my parents have called me foulest of things...like a b*tch and wh*re....despite the fact i have never displayed any remote behavior related to these....titles....if that's what they can be called... im not saying that physical violence occurs every day...more like every fortnight or so.... but the verbal violence inconsistent...my simplest statement can get them to chafe me with their language... i am not sure what this is....is it abuse....or is it just an indian thing.... because i thought its a good thing to stand up for oneself...and to be able add you point to discussions.... don't know....i am NRI (living abroad)....and its not a country like uk or the stated where solutions to such situations are easy... so i ask you... um...about guidance couselors and looking for authority to help....well...in this place....that stuff doesnt really exist....domestic stays domestic....although its modern and everything...socially...its a sort of taboo to "wash your dirty laundery..."

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1. your being abused. I understand that parents sometimes give spankings to children when they are younger ( under the age of 10) for misbehaving, my parents did that also. But for your age parents should not be hitting you, especially if you think its to the degree that you call it beating you. I think you should tell your guidance counselor at school what is going on or call one of those hotlines. Also, your parents should not be cursing at your or calling you names like that, theres no need for mental abuse along with the physical. Hope that helps
2. it is abuse,wether its "cultural" or not its abuse. get the hell out of there before you become a HONNOR KILLING statistic because it sounds like you will be one soon. nobody on this planet has the right to hit you NOBODY,not a parent,not a friend...NOBODY. don't wait for them to throw acid or gasoline on you. get out before they kill you, now,today,get help,there must be social workers where you live. you have a difficult choice to make,live with them &die,or leave them & live your life! if i was in your situation i would have cut their throats in their sleep,only way to be sure. i hate your parents for abusing you because your a girl,that pisses me off so much you have no clue. go get help.
3. Based on my knowledge of Indian culture, it is considered normal for parents to berate or chide their children as they see fit. Some parents in the US feel it is their right to do as your parents do, as well. To me it is abuse. Is there no one you could trust enough to talk to? Is there not a woman's center where you could go and get some help? Maybe your only recourse is to remain silent until you are of age to leave home? Not living in India, I don't know what else to say except, best of luck to you!
4. I'm Indian, my parents don't 'beat' me they used to give me the occasional spanking when I was younger, but that was for discipline. It is normal for Indian parents to occasionally beat their kids. It really is normal, I don't think they are abusing you. If it gets worse then maybe they are. But you should try talking to them and telling them that your much older now and you can take care of yourself. As for the verbal abuse, that really is abuse, seeing as to how they call you a whore unnecessarily. You need to talk to them, if your scared then ask your friend over and talk to them when shes around so they will listen.