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Is there a name of some psychological disorder for a person who exhibits these traits?

He was neglected and abused by his Mother. She had electro shock therapy which changed her personality when he was six. She later told him that she never loved him and saw no good in him. She beat him and dominated and controlled him until he ran away at 16. He never did connect to her emotionally, he never felt accepted or loved or validated by her. He married at 23. The woman he married fulfilled the Mother role for him for twenty years. She never did satisfy his yearning to be loved and accepted, divorcing him after twenty years. He married the day his divorce was final. That marriage was annulled after 5 weeks, the woman was bi polar. He married again to a woman he met on a phone chat line without dating or meeting first, marrying her the day they first met in person. He rapidly connects emotionally with women. He is very intelligent, charming and loving. All of the many women he has met report they feel smothered by him. The healthy ones break away from him quickly. Whadya think? He is gainfully employed, earns good money and is good looking. He very easily charms women, many of them falling quickly in love with him because of his attentive kindness, sweetness, good sense of humor, affectionate nature, generosity, intelligence, strong ability to connect emotionally, has a vast vocabulary of "feeling " and "emotional" words. He very quickly backs away from them when criticized or he feels threatened in any way, such as when he feels he may be abandoned by them, abandoning them first. He can easily drop them, often changing his phone number to avoid dealing with the instant breakup which he has initiated. He has a lifelong eating disorder, having been obese then quickly losing the weight, back to normal size many times in his life. He has had a porn addiction, drug addiction and tobacco addiction. He has a strong desire to break this lifelong pattern. He is a good man, just messed up in his head.

Public Comments

1. sociopath? basically its KINDA like a psychopath...except psychopathy is meant to be genetic whereas as sociopathy depends on the environment in which someone has lived/grown up in...
2. If this is a Friend of yours...Please help him get to a good Counselor or Psychologist so he can discover who he is ..Once that is worked thru as well as the abuse his mother subjected him ..His relationships will go alot slower, and he will be in a better space emotionally so he donest CLING on to to anyone who looks in his direction...
3. To answer your question, yes there's a name for that. Based on what you've said it's a type of attachment disorder but there could be other things that are keeping him from functioning with the healthy range. Encourage him to see a good counselor and do some self-exploration on insight into himself. If he's still in the "it's their fault" mode, and can't see the behaviors that people avoid in him, he strongly needs guidance from a professional.
4. How about this; Avoidant Personality Disorder Avoidant Personality Disorder is where a person has an extreme fear of being judged negatively by other people, and suffers from a high level of social discomfort as a result. They tend to only enter into relationships where uncritical acceptance is almost guaranteed, undergo social withdrawal, suffer from low self-esteem, but have a great desire for affection and acceptance. However, they do not want the affection as much as they fear the rejection. If this doesn't sound like him go to the link below. Keep in mind that only a professional can truly diagnose. :) Good luck
5. Only a psycho-therapist or doctor of psychology/psychiatry could accurately diagnose his condition. The rest of us can merely speculate. He was abused by his mother. He was desperate for her to love him as a mother should. He accepted her treatment of him until he found courage to escape. The rest of his life he has been trying to fill that emotional void his mother never filled. To make matters worse his relationships were either with women, who treated him just like his mother or ran away from him because he became clingy. This young man needs some proper therapy. He will not be able to have a healthy relationship with any woman until his psychological & emotional issues are resolved & in complete balance. He has to be able to work through his experience with his mother. Deep down inside of himself he feels he is to blame for his mothers rejection of him & her mistreatment. All children when they are young love their parents. Those are their caregivers normally. They are often the only adult they see on a daily basis. When a mother or a father treats them in such a way as this young man's mother has treated him. The child begins believing they are unworthy of being loved. They try harder and harder to make themselves more loveable more acceptable only to fail once again. This young man sounds like a wonderful person! He has wonderful & rare qualities for a man. There really isn't anything wrong with him. He is the victim. He is the way he is because of what was done against him from the beginning. Unfortunately he probably goes overboard & over compensates in his relationships.This tends to frighten or worry many women, who don't know or understand why he is this way. A Great therapist could help him understand what he is going through. Why he makes certain choices when it comes to selecting a woman for a relationship. He will continue to seek out the type of woman, who is most like his mother, because that 'little boy inside of him' is desperate for his mother's approval & her love. Subconsciously he feels that if he can get a woman, like his mother, to finally love & accept him that he will not feel empty inside. He wants to feel whole, complete & worthy of being loved. This sounds like a 'deeply seeded cycle of behavior' that leans more toward a type of neurosis or emotional disorder. Proper therapy can help break this cycle. This can lead him toward the peace & fullfillment he is searching for in his relationships with a woman. Now if he ever became violent toward women, who are like his mother, that would be a psychosis or psychotic break. If there hasn't been any history of violence by him toward anyone he would not be considered psychotic.
6. narcissist is the name. all experts in this field have the same advice for a normal person who comes across one....RUN !!!!